There was a time when I talked myself out of discomfort.
When I softened truths so I wouldn’t seem demanding.
When I stayed present while something in me quietly withdrew.
I don’t do that anymore.
I listen when my body tightens.
I listen when curiosity isn’t welcomed.
I listen when warmth is inconsistent.
This isn’t about blame or accusation.
It’s about clarity.
I no longer override my own signals to preserve connection.
I no longer call endurance “love.”
What I’m learning now is simpler — and truer:
emotional safety matters to me.
Honoring that is not hardness.
It’s self-respect.

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